When prayers for a spiritual gift go unanswered

When Prayers for a Spiritual Gift Go Unanswered…

Published On: July 10, 2025

THE VIEWS OF REFORMED CONTINUATIONISTS AND CESSATIONISTS

You’ve been praying for months, maybe years. You’ve asked for the gift of tongues, prophecy, healing, or another charismatic gift. You’ve watched others receive what seems to come so naturally to them. Yet for you, heaven appears silent.

If this describes your experience, you’re not alone. Christians across denominational lines wrestle with unanswered prayers for spiritual gifts. The disappointment is real, and the questions are valid. How should we understand God’s apparent “no” or “not yet” to our sincere requests?

The Reformed tradition offers wisdom from both cessationist and continuationist perspectives, each grounded in Scripture and pastoral concern for God’s people.

 

COMMON GROUND: THE REFORMED FOUNDATIONS

Before exploring the two divergent views, we must establish the theological bedrock both traditions share:

  • God’s Absolute Sovereignty: “I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion” (Romans 9:15). God distributes all good gifts according to His perfect will, not our demands.
  • Divine Wisdom: “’For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,’ declares the Lord” (Isaiah 55:8). God’s timing and methods transcend our understanding.
  • Sanctification Through Trials: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28). Even our waiting and disappointment serve God’s sanctifying purposes.
  • Scripture as Final Authority: All claims about spiritual gifts must be tested against God’s Word, our ultimate guide for faith and practice.

 

THE REFORMED CESSATIONIST RESPONSE

Reformed cessationists believe the miraculous gifts of tongues, prophecy, healing, and others ended with the apostolic era. They argue these gifts served a foundational purpose—establishing the early church and confirming apostolic authority (Ephesians 2:20). With Scripture’s completion, they contend, God no longer distributes these extraordinary gifts.

From this perspective, 1 Corinthians 13:8-10 indicates the miraculous gifts would cease when “the perfect” comes—understood as the completion of the New Testament canon. The gifts that continue today are those like teaching, administration, mercy, and help to those in need.

For those seeking charismatic gifts, cessationists offer this guidance:

  • Redirect Your Focus: Instead of seeking gifts that have ceased, pursue growth in ongoing gifts and the fruits of the Spirit. “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23).
  • Embrace Scripture’s Sufficiency: God’s Word and Spirit provide all needed guidance for the Christian life. Rather than seeking additional revelation through prophecy, immerse yourself in the completed revelation of Scripture.
  • Avoid Deception: Protect yourself against false manifestations and emotional manipulation that often accompany claims of miraculous gifts. “Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God” (1 John 4:1).
  • Pursue Sanctification: Channel your desire for gifts into the pursuit of holiness and Christlike character. This is God’s clear will for every believer.
  • Trust God’s Plan: He may have other plans for your service and growth that don’t involve miraculous gifts but are equally valuable to His kingdom.

Key cessationist voices like John MacArthur and RC Sproul emphasise Scripture’s sufficiency and caution against seeking experiences beyond the biblical norm for this age.

 

THE REFORMED CONTINUATIONIST RESPONSE

Reformed continuationists claim the spiritual gifts, including miraculous ones, continue today because Scripture provides no clear end-date for them. They argue 1 Corinthians 13:8-10 refers to Christ’s return, not the canon’s completion, and that gifts continue to serve their biblical purpose of building up the body of Christ.

Continuationists emphasise the Spirit’s sovereignty: “All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he distributes them to each one, just as he determines” (1 Corinthians 12:11). God alone decides who receives which gifts and when.

However, Reformed continuationists agree there’s a great deal of misuse and false claims about spiritual gifts in the world today. Therefore, caution and careful biblical discernment are essential when evaluating any claimed manifestation of the Spirit.

For those seeking charismatic gifts, continuationists offer this wisdom:

  • Respect Divine Timing: God’s perfect timing doesn’t align with human urgency. Moses spent 40 years in the wilderness, and Paul went to Arabia before beginning his ministry. Preparation often precedes gifting.
  • Character Before Charisma: Gifts follow spiritual maturity, not the reverse. God often develops our character before entrusting us with powerful gifts that could be misused.
  • Steward Current Gifts: Faithfully use whatever gifts God has already given you. The parable of the talents (Matthew 25:14-30) teaches that additional responsibility comes to those who prove faithful with what they have.
  • Maintain Persistent Prayer: Continue asking while trusting God’s wisdom. “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you” (Matthew 7:7).
  • Remember Community Purpose: Gifts serve the body of Christ, not personal fulfillment. “Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good” (1 Corinthians 12:7).

Key Continuationist Voices

John Calvin: Cessationists often claim he was a Cessationist too. Calvin, however, acknowledged the miraculous gifts could return if needed for the church. He emphasised God’s freedom to work beyond ordinary means while maintaining balance.

John Piper teaches gifts are for building up the body, and not for personal experience. His “cautious continuationism” emphasises rigorous biblical testing of all manifestations while trusting God’s sovereignty in distribution. He encourages contentment in God regardless of gifts received.

Wayne Grudem provides detailed biblical exegesis showing that gifts continue, while offering practical guidelines for exercising them safely. He distinguishes between fallible prophetic gifts and infallible Scripture, encouraging patient waiting on God’s timing.

Sam Storms balances openness to the supernatural with careful discernment. He addresses the disappointment of unanswered prayer while encouraging continued faith, maintaining that we should neither demand gifts nor limit God’s power.

 

PRACTICAL WISDOM FOR BOTH PERSPECTIVES

Regardless of your position on gift cessation, certain principles apply:

  • Examine Your Motives: Why do you want this gift? Is it for God’s glory and others’ benefit, or personal fulfillment? “When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives” (James 4:3).
  • Cultivate Patience: Learn contentment in God’s current provision. Paul learned to be content in all circumstances (Philippians 4:11-13), and so must we.
  • Serve Faithfully: Demonstrate readiness through faithful service in your current capacity. God often tests our faithfulness in small things before entrusting us with greater responsibilities.
  • Test Everything: “But test them all; hold on to what is good” (1 Thessalonians 5:21). Whether continuationist or cessationist, maintain careful discernment about spiritual claims.

 

THE GREATER GIFT: UNION WITH CHRIST

Both traditions agree knowing Christ surpasses all spiritual experiences. Paul counted everything as loss compared to “the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord” (Philippians 3:8).

The “more excellent way” of 1 Corinthians 13 isn’t about choosing between gifts and love, but recognising that love—and the Christ who embodies it—transcends all gifts. The fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) reveals character that outlasts any temporary spiritual manifestation.

Sometimes our greatest spiritual gift is learning to trust God’s “no” or “not yet.” This ordinary faithfulness, lived out in daily obedience, may be more extraordinary than any miraculous gift.

 

CONCLUSION: TRUSTING GOD’S PERFECT PLAN

Whether you lean cessationist or continuationist, both traditions affirm God’s wisdom in gift distribution. His “no” or “not yet” isn’t rejection but loving sovereignty. Our response reveals our trust in His perfect timing and wisdom.

The greatest gift isn’t tongues, prophecy, or healing—it’s faith itself and relationship with Christ. “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights” (James 1:17).

If you’re waiting for a spiritual gift, remember that waiting well is itself a spiritual discipline. God may be preparing you for something greater than you imagined, or He may be teaching you that His presence is gift enough.

Continue to pray, serve faithfully, and trust in the One who “works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will” (Ephesians 1:11). His timing is perfect, His ways are higher than ours, and His love for you is unwavering—gift or no gift.

 

WHEN PRAYERS FOR A SPIRITUAL GIFT GO UNANSWERED: RELATED FAQs

Can we lose a spiritual gift we once had?

Cessationist View: Since miraculous gifts have ceased, what people think they’ve “lost” were likely natural talents or psychological experiences rather than genuine spiritual gifts. The continuing gifts like teaching or administration can be neglected but not supernaturally withdrawn.

Continuationist View: While Romans 11:29 states that “God’s gifts and his call are irrevocable,” gifts can become dormant through sin, neglect, or seasons of spiritual dryness. However, true spiritual gifts aren’t permanently lost—they may need to be “rekindled” through prayer and renewed commitment (2 Timothy 1:6).

Should I fast and pray more intensely to receive a spiritual gift?

Cessationist View: Fasting and prayer are valuable spiritual disciplines, but they cannot produce gifts that have already ceased. Instead, use these practices to seek God’s will for your life and to grow in the gifts that continue today.

Continuationist View: Fasting and prayer can be appropriate expressions of desire for spiritual gifts, but they should never become manipulative attempts to force God’s hand. The focus should be on drawing closer to God rather than obtaining gifts, trusting His sovereignty in distribution (1 Corinthians 12:11).

What if I feel “called” to a ministry that requires a specific gift I don’t have?

Cessationist View: God doesn’t call people to ministries requiring miraculous gifts since those gifts have ceased. Examine whether your calling aligns with Scripture’s description of continuing gifts and offices, and consider how God might use your natural abilities in service.

Continuationist View: God may be preparing you for future gifting or calling you to serve in ways that don’t require miraculous gifts. Continue pursuing the calling while remaining open to how God might equip you, remembering that His timing often differs from ours. Sometimes the calling comes before the complete equipping.

Is it wrong to ask God for a specific spiritual gift?

Cessationist View: It’s not sinful to ask, but it may reflect misunderstanding about which gifts continue today. Better to pray for wisdom to discover and use the gifts God has already given you, focusing on spiritual growth and faithful service in your current capacity.

Continuationist View: Scripture encourages us to “eagerly desire the greater gifts” (1 Corinthians 12:31), so asking is appropriate. However, our prayers should be submitted to God’s will and motivated by love for others rather than personal ambition. The key is asking with the right heart and accepting God’s answer.

Could unconfessed sin be preventing me from receiving a spiritual gift? Cessationist View: Since miraculous gifts have ceased, unconfessed sin isn’t preventing their reception. However, sin can hinder our ability to recognise and use the gifts God has given us, and it certainly affects our spiritual growth and effectiveness in ministry.

Continuationist View: While God’s gifts are given by grace, not merit, persistent sin can grieve the Holy Spirit and hinder His work in our lives (Ephesians 4:30). Regular confession and repentance create an environment where God can work more freely, though spiritual gifts remain His sovereign decision to give.

Did those who claim to have received spiritual gifts in the New Testament get them in answer to prayer?

Cessationist View: The New Testament shows miraculous gifts were sovereignly distributed by God, often without specific prayer requests for them. The apostles received gifts at Pentecost without asking (Acts 2:1-4), and Paul’s gifts came through his calling, not his petitioning. When gifts were imparted, it was typically through apostolic laying on of hands (Acts 8:14-17), which ceased with the apostolic era. This pattern suggests seeking miraculous gifts through prayer today misunderstands their original purpose and distribution method.

Continuationist View: While some gifts came sovereignly (like at Pentecost), the New Testament does show prayer connected to spiritual manifestations—the disciples prayed before Pentecost (Acts 1:14), and Paul prayed for the Ephesians to receive spiritual wisdom and revelation (Ephesians 1:17-19). The command to “eagerly desire the greater gifts” (1 Corinthians 12:31) implies active seeking, which would naturally include prayer. Though gifts remain God’s sovereign decision, Scripture encourages believers to ask, seek, and knock (Matthew 7:7), trusting the Spirit to give good gifts to those who ask.

How do I know if God wants me to stop asking for a particular gift?

Cessationist View: If you’re asking for miraculous gifts, you can stop asking since they’ve ceased, and instead focus on discovering and developing the gifts God has already given you. Redirect your spiritual energy toward proven areas of service and growth.

Continuationist View: Continue asking while remaining submissive to God’s will and timing. If persistent prayer begins to create anxiety, bitterness, or spiritual pride, it may be time to step back and focus on serving faithfully with current gifts. God may be teaching contentment or preparing you for a different kind of service. The key is maintaining peace and trust in His sovereignty.

 

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